Saturday, April 28, 2007

I will marry a Naija man

Ndo, Ma binu, E jo...Sorry for being so so so incognito, especially for those that still read, I've been busy getting my life in order and will update it when the time is right Lets just say there is a potential on the scene, and I'm genuinely excited at where it is going. If he is as legit as he appears, the saying u have to kiss a couple of frogs to get to a prince is right! Omo with as many frogs as I've kissed in the past yr, I had to wash my mouth with Listerine Intensive mouthwash, and even with that, I can still smell my breath!

Anyway back to the topic...I dont want to marry a Naija man, I NEED to marry a Naija man. No offense to my sisters married to non Nigerian men but previous non Nigerian relationships and random dating encounters in the past recent weeks have shown me otherwise. I'm sorry I cant keep having to interpret what I mean what sha, jare and all that stuff means. I believe we are the world and in flashing a peace sign and world unity and all that, but God Himself knows the desires of my heart and that one includes a Nigerian man! Igbo would be awesome, Yoruba would be nice, Hausa...well where I go find dat one for Yankee, so that one no go work! My minority brodas are ok, I hear say Idoma men are tasty, so abeg all reading should apply! haha

I want a Naija man who knows and acknowledges his Naija side, as in one who can eat fufu with his fingers, yet I want a Naija man who can turn around and look good in a black tie event hence all agboros, omatas and area boys, carry yourself and go. I want a Naija man that knows why if Uncle Boniface is sick in the village, that phone call informing me of his sickness means donation! I want a Naija man who understands why I love the red sand in the East that covers the ground of my ancestors, even though it damages my shoes. A Naija man who knows "home" really does mean naija even after 20yrs here, and wants to have a "home" to go back to! A Naija man who wants his children speaking our language and knowing our ways. I want a Naija man who will sit in the kitchen and keep me comfy even as I attempt to prepare our food. I want a Naija man who will surprise me with breakfast in bed. I want a Naija man who will discuss politics with me, who will let me beat him in NFL Madden, who will travel the world with me. A Naija man who is man enough to shack Gulder (sorry to Stout&Star drinkers!), and man enough to realize he is a mere mortal, and has the fear of God. One who knows being a Christian is more than going to church on Sundays and lets his actions and ways be one that lets me feel comfortable having him as my head and covering!

A Naija man who knows the difference between confidence and cockiness, who doesnt come with wahala, but still has that gra gra that makes his presence known when he walks into a room. A Naija man who wont go crazy if Baby #1 and #2 arent male (my Igbo people u know how we are!). A Naija man who has a strong sense of family but whose parents arent the inlaws from hell who expect me to cook 3 different types of soup at every meal! I want a naija man who isnt jealous when eyes glance my way as I wear a hot sexy dress and break it down in the club to his delight! A Naija man who will be both a father and a daddy and realize there is a difference between both. One who will be a good role model for our sons and daughters, one who will be there when it counts and realizes that childhood is priceless! I want a naija man that is a hustler, yeah I want one with a degree but if you are sitting there waiting for your next promotion patiently, I'll gladly pass! That said I want a Naija man who isnt a "yahoo yahoo boy!" (abeg no to 419), and who isnt a wanted man due to his odu bizness with awon boys! I want a Naija man that doesnt feel threatened by my title and degree, who lets me be his wife, his partner, his lover and his friend. One who will go running with me when I pick up pounds after having our baby. A man who will "share my life and take me for what I am", who will please me in ways that wil make me feel I have no other option but to love and cater to him. A naija man who is able to touch me in ways I thought unimaginable, and make me discover untouched terrains. A Naija man whose needs I alone am allowed to feed and fulfil. One who will whisper sweet nothings in native languages that will make me melt in the bed at night as we touch, teach and tease...

I want a Naija man who might surprise me with a plane tix home to go see the folks! (LOL I know this is pushing it haha) but most importantly I want a Naija man that will love, respect and honor me, one who will keep my smile glowing and my happiness showing.

My Naija man where art thou? I'm right here waiting oooooooo