Monday, February 12, 2007

Brief update

I've been gone for eternity it seems, had too many personal issues to deal with and was to busy being a friend. I dont think Emeka and I will be in a relationship for a while if ever. Fate is cruel, Emeka lost his baby bro in a car accident while he was visiting Nigeria end of Jan! The boy was only 23yrs old, his right hand, his side kick, his ace. Seeing a grown man cry, cry as in shed tears, sobbing and shaking is something I've never really seen much of. Its completely depressing, I flew down to see him a few days ago and he looks like a completely different person. They lived together, and since their dad passed away when they were kids, he was like a big-brother/father figure. He left for Naija yesterday and I can only pray that God gives him strength, I cant imagine dealing with something like that.
So now that I've succeeded in dampening my spirits, I'll have to take a break and be back today or tomorrow with something better. Actually I need to talk about my brother and his version of Maury show "He is not the father" that also happened in Jan!

10 comments:

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

Awww... my condolences to Emeka.. i can only imagine what a painful time this is for him!I'm so sorry to hear that... and what a damn shame too cos Emeka sounded like the perfect guy for you.. i missed you! Thank God you're back... welcome back luv.. hope work and everything is good sha although it seems they're overworking u small(life of a doctor eh?)

chainreader said...

I don't think you should write him off because he's grieving. Of course he's different. he just lost his brother. Give him time. You can never tell.

And it's good to finally have you back.

Chameleon said...

welcome back. thats some sad news, was really sweet of you to fly down. im sure after his grieving, he'll look for the person that was always there- you!

bibi said...

awww...bad news....hope he feels better....love ur blog btw...ure def on fire w these 2 men..thy both seem great..u just have to decided based on character....but try to be there for Emeka..he needs someone to be there for him

Naijadude said...

Wow! thats some sad news that happened to Emeka! My heart longs out to him and his family! Try and give him time to get over the death of his brotha but if you think he's taking too long, abegi find the nearest exit eh!

Pirahna said...

Hiya

So sorry to hear what happened to Emeka' brother. Please stay a patient friend to him.

Grief affects people in different ways. It changes them.
I lost my Dad and Sister within 3 mths of each other. After their funerals, I was inconsolable. I decided to shut out the world. I stopped socialising, sport, church phone calls etc I shut out friends i had known since childhood, workmates etc. I only kept in touch with my siblings

I would go to work and return and draw my curtains. After a year, I felt healed and able to face the world. The good friends were patient and they understood. Well... the others thought it was about THEM

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

mami come back now.. e don tey small.. i hope you're alright

Daddy's Girl said...

That is so sad - may his soul rest in peace and may God comfort Emeka and the rest of the family he left behind.

pirahna's comment is very moving - we all must grieve, each in our own way, when tragedies happen in our lives - like she said some people will understand, others won't.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

my condolences to him, its so hard to say something at a time like this. Lets pray that God will continue to comfort him right now.

Thoughts said...

Hard..very hard situation to deal with.My heart goes out to Emeka and his fam.Sad!God's Blessings and comfort in this time of grief.