Saturday, April 28, 2007

I will marry a Naija man

Ndo, Ma binu, E jo...Sorry for being so so so incognito, especially for those that still read, I've been busy getting my life in order and will update it when the time is right Lets just say there is a potential on the scene, and I'm genuinely excited at where it is going. If he is as legit as he appears, the saying u have to kiss a couple of frogs to get to a prince is right! Omo with as many frogs as I've kissed in the past yr, I had to wash my mouth with Listerine Intensive mouthwash, and even with that, I can still smell my breath!

Anyway back to the topic...I dont want to marry a Naija man, I NEED to marry a Naija man. No offense to my sisters married to non Nigerian men but previous non Nigerian relationships and random dating encounters in the past recent weeks have shown me otherwise. I'm sorry I cant keep having to interpret what I mean what sha, jare and all that stuff means. I believe we are the world and in flashing a peace sign and world unity and all that, but God Himself knows the desires of my heart and that one includes a Nigerian man! Igbo would be awesome, Yoruba would be nice, Hausa...well where I go find dat one for Yankee, so that one no go work! My minority brodas are ok, I hear say Idoma men are tasty, so abeg all reading should apply! haha

I want a Naija man who knows and acknowledges his Naija side, as in one who can eat fufu with his fingers, yet I want a Naija man who can turn around and look good in a black tie event hence all agboros, omatas and area boys, carry yourself and go. I want a Naija man that knows why if Uncle Boniface is sick in the village, that phone call informing me of his sickness means donation! I want a Naija man who understands why I love the red sand in the East that covers the ground of my ancestors, even though it damages my shoes. A Naija man who knows "home" really does mean naija even after 20yrs here, and wants to have a "home" to go back to! A Naija man who wants his children speaking our language and knowing our ways. I want a Naija man who will sit in the kitchen and keep me comfy even as I attempt to prepare our food. I want a Naija man who will surprise me with breakfast in bed. I want a Naija man who will discuss politics with me, who will let me beat him in NFL Madden, who will travel the world with me. A Naija man who is man enough to shack Gulder (sorry to Stout&Star drinkers!), and man enough to realize he is a mere mortal, and has the fear of God. One who knows being a Christian is more than going to church on Sundays and lets his actions and ways be one that lets me feel comfortable having him as my head and covering!

A Naija man who knows the difference between confidence and cockiness, who doesnt come with wahala, but still has that gra gra that makes his presence known when he walks into a room. A Naija man who wont go crazy if Baby #1 and #2 arent male (my Igbo people u know how we are!). A Naija man who has a strong sense of family but whose parents arent the inlaws from hell who expect me to cook 3 different types of soup at every meal! I want a naija man who isnt jealous when eyes glance my way as I wear a hot sexy dress and break it down in the club to his delight! A Naija man who will be both a father and a daddy and realize there is a difference between both. One who will be a good role model for our sons and daughters, one who will be there when it counts and realizes that childhood is priceless! I want a naija man that is a hustler, yeah I want one with a degree but if you are sitting there waiting for your next promotion patiently, I'll gladly pass! That said I want a Naija man who isnt a "yahoo yahoo boy!" (abeg no to 419), and who isnt a wanted man due to his odu bizness with awon boys! I want a Naija man that doesnt feel threatened by my title and degree, who lets me be his wife, his partner, his lover and his friend. One who will go running with me when I pick up pounds after having our baby. A man who will "share my life and take me for what I am", who will please me in ways that wil make me feel I have no other option but to love and cater to him. A naija man who is able to touch me in ways I thought unimaginable, and make me discover untouched terrains. A Naija man whose needs I alone am allowed to feed and fulfil. One who will whisper sweet nothings in native languages that will make me melt in the bed at night as we touch, teach and tease...

I want a Naija man who might surprise me with a plane tix home to go see the folks! (LOL I know this is pushing it haha) but most importantly I want a Naija man that will love, respect and honor me, one who will keep my smile glowing and my happiness showing.

My Naija man where art thou? I'm right here waiting oooooooo

21 comments:

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

hear hear.. but I thought you said there was a relationship blossoming..so which is it?, you want / need or You Have.. spill the beans..

glad to hear that you are well and all is going along smoothly.

Take care and stay blessed.

readandrise said...

Girl, first of all welcome back......ok really are you my sister from anoda mother....i literally had this exact same conversation with my friend 2 hors ago...i mean almost verbatim.....this is soooo spooky,
!!!

anyhoo, so spill, spill, i wanna hear all about this new/maybe not so new man.....:-)

Nyemoni said...

Lmao... well said girl... I liked this post cos it was real and it came from deep inside you... I know that there are soooo many naija men ou there who are all you NEED amd much more... only time will bring you two together... Here's wishing that you find him - and very quickly too... I hope all doubts will be erased from your mind when you do meet him, such that you will have no doubt that He is the Mr. you've been waiting for and vice versa... Good luck!

Naijalove said...

my people thanks 4 stopping by. I'll update on whats in the works when everything is solid but rest assured its a naija man :)
lets say I was the one out of all my friends most likely to NOT marry a naija man. Majority of my exes were non nigerians and I felt it wasnt a problem for me then. Fast fwd, I feel I'm more comfortable with myself as a woman, and I really cant deal with the shock "Non Naija" men experience when they realize that "American sounding chic" is blasting some highlife in the car, and screaming "ewoooo" just as easily as she says "danggggggg".
If I wnted to teach my whole life I'd become a teacher, I've done it before but I've little patience. I'm back to dating my people and just realized how stress free it can be!

Miss Clanny said...

Well.....

Miss Clanny said...

Well.....what can I say sister. First of all I feel you. When you do find or know of a man like that pls and pls again point in my direction.......but I'm sure you will have him first.

Ciao.

Naijalove said...

Miss clanny, no worries, I'm sure he has brothers, cousins and friends, so after I've snagged him, then I can start helping others! LOL

laspapi said...

Rambler,
Nice post. I'd gotten tired of all these strange girls based in Naija saying "Men here don't know love". I think it's Hollywood that messes up their thinking. I mean, O.J. must have been head-over-heels in love with his ex-wife to do what he did.
I don't think you'll have any difficulty in finding a good naija man (what with your fair complexion, pointed nose and ikoyi club background-lol)
Seriously now,I like this post. Thank you for believing in the "Nigerian Force".

readyornot said...

@laspapi, see this is why they say naija men na wa for u....so if she had dark skin and african nose and had never been to ikoyi club then she will have difficulty abi..beacuse me i dont understand this your comment o

Naijalove said...

lmao@laspapi, remember say ikoyi club background get k-leg cause half the time sef, we no get membership! Popsie no get money to dey throw awoof like that.
But seriously sha, I believe in the "Nigerian Force", u guys sabi how to chase woman which is great when ur the only one being chased and if u actually like the dude like that!!

laspapi said...

see, ready or not, that comment was only half serious o.

I agree with naija love. The tenacity of the Naija man is unparalleled.

Pink-satin said...

Mehn me sef...I WANT TO MARRY A NIGERIAN MAN O

NaijaBloke said...

Nice post jere ... no worry we still plenty for road just that we dey always jam crazy naija chics too,so no be only una guys get problem.

U can imagine a naija chic that just came here 5yrs ago telling me I speak too much pidgin & yoruba,I was like nne all I do at work is speak all these crazy fone with everybody and u need to know how happy I am when I see someone I can speak pidgin and yoruba with ..

Vickii said...

This is a cool post! Seriously you this girl, we definitely think alike ... I once wrote a post about what I loved about Naija guys but I think yours is much better.

Loving your blog!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

awww this is so beautiful... even more because i was just talking about this with my friends a few days ago.. i dont mind dating non-naija(and if my forever guy wasn't nigerian.. i'd still marry and be with him) but my true heart desire is a naija guy that i could share my pidgin and igbo jokes with... you'll find him mami.. you will... and i want to be a blogsville bridesmaid oh

Kpakpando said...

I guess the question now is, are you the nigerian woman that the naija man you described wants?

Daddy's Girl said...

Fabulous post, you kept it real - please when you find this man ask him if he has a brother that's just like him... LOL

Danlami said...

Holla back mikedanza@yahoo.com..............

Faith said...
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Faith said...

Sorry those kind of men do not exist among Nigerians. Looking through the things you want I don't see hoe you can be happy with a Nigerian. They are not just into a free spirited woman who shows signs of independence. Even if he does okay when it comes to their respective families (especially parents) they become totally brainless. Bottom line most Nigerian men are spineless and I hate to break it to you but you might just be better off looking at a non Nigerian.

God bless

Faith said...

Sorry those kind of men do not exist among Nigerians. Looking through the things you want I don't see hoe you can be happy with a Nigerian. They are not just into a free spirited woman who shows signs of independence. Even if he does okay when it comes to their respective families (especially parents) they become totally brainless. Bottom line most Nigerian men are spineless and I hate to break it to you but you might just be better off looking at a non Nigerian.

God bless